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Showing posts with label routine. Show all posts
Showing posts with label routine. Show all posts
Monday, December 14, 2009
Responsibility
For about a year or so now i have been acting more like a teenager or child than the 23 yearold woman that i am. I leave things for the last minute, especially chores, when i know i can get away with it (like when Master will not be around to see my house in a horrible state of disarray), make excuses for not doing things, and generally can get pretty lazy during the week. Master made a point to me last night, that little slaves like me need and can crave the tight leash, that i need him to watch things constantly or slack off and have a tendency to misbehave or get an attitude. As usual, Master is quite correct. I'm not always sure what it is that causes this, as i like to please my Master and most of the time try very hard to be a good girl. I guess part of it is lack of motivaton and a lean toward procrastination. I like schedules. Not exactly micromanagement, but more "Today you must accomplish A. B. and C." or "Every day you should spend ___ minutes doing this" It keeps me focused and reminds me that no matter how far away he is, and though he cannot see it at the moment, My Master is always with me, always watching out for me, always cares.
Wednesday, June 03, 2009
Advice for new submissives
What advice would you give a new submissive just exploring her submissive self?
Read as much as you possibly can from both sides of the lifestyle Dom and sub. But dont believe everything you read.
Dont trust that BDSM porn is real
follow you gut instincts about people. if your instinct says no, dont fight it.
Dont trust everyone you talk to online. take time to establish trust
Keep an open mind to exploring things and never say 'i will never do this' because limits expand and change as we grow as submissives.
learn to open your eyes to new play things that stem from household objects... wooden spoons, clothespins and scarves can all make excellent play toys.
Dont be afraid to admit that you are learning and are new. New flesh has a tendency to excite some Masters, as they get to train you. And there is no point in claiming to be experienced and then getting in way over your head cause you lied.
speak up. there is nothing wrong with using a safe word if you feel uncomfortable or getting a safe call. nor is there anything wrong with telling your Dom/me or top that You dont want to be flogged until He/She has learned to use the damned thing. Using toys with out experience can get you hurt.
Dont be too shy, or too slutty at first. you can't meet people until you get out there.
And finally... Never judge yourself by someone else. There isn't really a set standard for D/s and every relationship is different. and thats okay...
Read as much as you possibly can from both sides of the lifestyle Dom and sub. But dont believe everything you read.
Dont trust that BDSM porn is real
follow you gut instincts about people. if your instinct says no, dont fight it.
Dont trust everyone you talk to online. take time to establish trust
Keep an open mind to exploring things and never say 'i will never do this' because limits expand and change as we grow as submissives.
learn to open your eyes to new play things that stem from household objects... wooden spoons, clothespins and scarves can all make excellent play toys.
Dont be afraid to admit that you are learning and are new. New flesh has a tendency to excite some Masters, as they get to train you. And there is no point in claiming to be experienced and then getting in way over your head cause you lied.
speak up. there is nothing wrong with using a safe word if you feel uncomfortable or getting a safe call. nor is there anything wrong with telling your Dom/me or top that You dont want to be flogged until He/She has learned to use the damned thing. Using toys with out experience can get you hurt.
Dont be too shy, or too slutty at first. you can't meet people until you get out there.
And finally... Never judge yourself by someone else. There isn't really a set standard for D/s and every relationship is different. and thats okay...
Sunday, May 10, 2009
Dailys
Daily
i will spend 5 min naked kneeling in Nadu after waking.
i will ask for permission from Master to use the restroom.
Master will tell me what panties (if any) to wear the following day.
i will take my butt plug, smart balls and vibrator with me where ever I go.
i will ask Master what I will be allowed to have for lunch.
i will chat with Master everynight as allowed. my chat end time will be 10:00 during the week, and 11:00 on Friday and Saturday.
i will be in bed and lights out by 11:00 during the week and 12:00 on Friday and Saturday, unless told otherwise by my Master
i will spend 10 min naked in Nadu (Mon,Wed,Fri), Sula (Tues), Bara (Thur),Belly (Sat),She Sleen (Sun)
i will ask for permission from Master to use the restroom.
Master will tell me what panties (if any) to wear the following day.
i will take my butt plug, smart balls and vibrator with me where ever I go.
i will ask Master what I will be allowed to have for lunch.
i will chat with Master everynight as allowed. my chat end time will be 10:00 during the week, and 11:00 on Friday and Saturday.
i will be in bed and lights out by 11:00 during the week and 12:00 on Friday and Saturday, unless told otherwise by my Master
i will spend 10 min naked in Nadu (Mon,Wed,Fri), Sula (Tues), Bara (Thur),Belly (Sat),She Sleen (Sun)
Other
Master will help me in my clothing purchases.
This is the list of guidelines that i have been given by Master. Not exactly a contract (although i have been told that one may be coming when He is down here Memorial day weekend). This came after the bad weekend where i refused to do as i was told... I'll post that soon. Being that i am a LD slave and that i need tight boundaries, Master set this up for me to keep me on track and centered despite what has been going on during the day. i try to do my best in keeping to this, although things have a tendency to get in the way.. Like the fact that He changed offices and now i can't talk to Him at work like i was able to before, so it is hard to call to ask permission to go to the bathroom everytime i need to when He is all busy, or on the weekends.
Master will help me in my clothing purchases.
This is the list of guidelines that i have been given by Master. Not exactly a contract (although i have been told that one may be coming when He is down here Memorial day weekend). This came after the bad weekend where i refused to do as i was told... I'll post that soon. Being that i am a LD slave and that i need tight boundaries, Master set this up for me to keep me on track and centered despite what has been going on during the day. i try to do my best in keeping to this, although things have a tendency to get in the way.. Like the fact that He changed offices and now i can't talk to Him at work like i was able to before, so it is hard to call to ask permission to go to the bathroom everytime i need to when He is all busy, or on the weekends.
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