this is part of a conversation I am having with another submissive... Just thought I would share it here..
D/s vs M/s
You are correct about D/s being a bit more open to the submissive's
point of view. But more than that... I find that Masters (especially
those that use Ms as an excuse to take advantage of someone or abuse
them) are less concerned with their submissive's needs and well being.
They might care for the basic needs of a slave the way that one would
meet the basic needs of a tolerated pet or need vehicle. Food, shelter,
etc. but they usually have very little consideration for a slaves
emotional or mental desires. They may choose not to talk to a slave, or
have sex with a slave, or allow the slave to come, ever, etc.
They may limit the slaves ability to contact with others, even the
Master himself via eye contact restricts, speech restrictions, what have
you. Slaves are expected to offer up no argument, no sign of protest at
this kind of treatment. Their dreams are not taken into consideration.
They are property, typically no more cherished than anything else of use
in the Master's world. And if they are no longer of use, they are no
longer a slave. Not all M/s relationships are so cut an dry. Many
Masters show affection or loyalty or love toward a slave. The motivation
here, if you ask a Master who will answer honestly, is about the
Master's happiness, or his pleasure. Some will say that a girl behaves
better with affection, or is more loyal, or whatever. The Ms
relationship is less about control, and more about consideration and
D/s.... B.always says that a true Dominant has the hardest job
because He is always willing to put the needs of His submissive before
His own. Yes, He holds the control in the relationship, and His
submissive works to please Him. Her mind is always on Him. It is because
of that that He must always keep her in mind. There is exchange of love
and caring that goes both ways, instead all the focus being on one
person. There are always varying degrees of control in D/s
relationships, as different submissives have different needs. Dominants
that are worth their salt (as He is), increase or decrease the amount of
control they take in the submissive's life to allow the submissive to
reach her true potential. It is the duty of a Dominant to seek out
submissives that have great potential with in them to be the best
submissive for that Dominant.